Of course that's not what I mean, and I make a grab for the shirt to slip it over his head. What I mean is, "I don't have enough time to wait for you to learn, so just let me do it for you."
He yanks it away and tries again.
Head in the middle, one arm on each side; plain and simple... really only one way it works.
Still he tries, head stuck, trying to push through the long skinny opening. So obvious to my eyes, my experience; still he pushes, stretching the opening.
I put off the clock and wait for his wail for help, and it comes.
"Is that not working"... feigned innocence.... "Do you want to try something different?"
Again, I show him the head sized hole. A little more struggle and he learns success.
I remember when my own father's eyes meet mine,
and I knew he knew.
He could have stopped it all right there. If he would have commanded, I would have obeyed...but he knew I already knew; and so he let me choose.
I struggled, sure there must be another way, until I was completely stuck; again, he lovingly showed me the right way...and I learned.
Know then that ev'ry soul is free,
To choose his life and what he'll be;
For this eternal truth is given,
That God will force no man to heaven.
He'll call, persuade direct him right;,
Bless him with wisdom, love, and light;
In nameless ways be good and kind;
But never force the human mind.
~"Know This, That Every Soul is Free"
Es--I love that one! We've been working on memorizing that song with the kids lately. For all it's taught me about agency, I'm glad I have independent minded children. :-) Their choices always amaze me. It's their hair, their clothes, their body, their homework, their friends... I teach, and they do the rest. I'm amazed at the results. I love the agency principle.
ReplyDeleteLove it...but it's SO hard. I wish I could learn to step back more often - heaven knows dad let me stick my head through the arm hole more than once trying to figure it out. When I need to do a talk in chruch...I'm comin' to your blog!
ReplyDeleteWow. I really needed this reminder. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteOh Esther - so patient! Sometimes it is hard to be patient though, isn't it? Thanks for the reminder :)
ReplyDeleteThank you...I must confess my lack of patience.
ReplyDeletelovely truth...
ReplyDeleteOuch. I've said, "Let me help you" too many times, when I mean, "I don't have time to wait." You did a great job hitting home with this. Thankfully the Lord is more patient than I am. Great post.
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